Internet speak is a very real thing. Online communities develop their own vocabularies, particularly on sites and platforms that have been up and running for years — it’s all part of the fun of belonging to the online world. Knowing specific terms is like a membership badge.
One place you’ll find internet slang is AdultFriendFinder, one of the OG hookup sites. If you’re new to AFF, it can be a bit confusing at first. You’ll quickly come across lingo, acronyms, and shorthand terms that you’ve never heard before.
Some of the terms will be obvious or familiar from other online dating cultures, but some are particular to specialist communities, such as the worlds of BDSM and kink.
To get you started on AFF, we’ve put together a glossary of essential AFF terms that will help you navigate the site:
Common AFF slang terms you need to know
Aftercare: Term for cuddling and/or words of affirmation after a BDSM scenario
Bate buds: Two or more people who enjoy masturbating to the same kinds of content alternative and swap recommendations
CD: Cross-dressing, usually referring to a person who enjoys wearing the clothing of another gender
Cuckolding: The practice of consensual infidelity, i.e. taking pleasure from your partner having sex with someone else, widely enjoyed in non-monogamous relationships
DD/LG: Acronym for “daddy dom, little girl,” describing a male-dominant, female-submissive relationship
Dom/Domme: Short-hand term for the dominant partner in a BDSM relationship. The terms master/mistress are often used interchangeably with dom/domme
Edging: The practice of bringing oneself close to sexual orgasm but without ever reaching it
ENM: Ethical non-monogamy, which is otherwise known as an open relationship
Little: Short-hand term for the submissive partner in a BDSM relationship
Limits/Hard Limits: Someone’s boundaries. Respecting limits is a central tenet of kink culture and should be practiced even in online encounters
MD/LB: Acronym for “mommy domme, little boy,” describing a female-dominant, male-submissive relationship
Orgasm Control: A scenario in which one partner voluntarily relinquishes control of their sexual climax to another play partner
Shibari: The Japanese art of decorative rope bondage, usually requiring a high degree of experience to execute properly
Switch: Someone who occasionally enjoys being either dominant or submissive
Vanilla: A non-pejorative term describing a preference for non-kinky sexual practices
Source: https://mashable.com/life/adultfriendfinder-hookup-slang-terms-to-know
